What should I do if this is happening to me or to someone I know? 

The first step towards getting help is recognising and acknowledging what is happening. The following questions may help you decide what to do. Remember that it is your choice at all times. 

  • Have you ever been shoved, slapped, punched, kicked or hit?
  • Have you ever been called names, humiliated and made to feel worthless?
  • Have you believed them when they promised not to do it again, but they did?
  • Have you ever believed that you deserve to be beaten?
  • Have your friendships and your relationship with your family changed?
  • Do you feel isolated from them?
  • Do you feel ashamed that you stay in an abusive relationship?
  • Are you frightened of upsetting someone and live your life walking on eggshells?
  • Are you told that you are watched and followed?
  • Are your telephone calls checked?
  • Do you have to account for every penny or is your money restricted?
  • Do you have to account for your time and actions when you have been alone?
  • Is your partner jealous? Are you accused of turning people against them?
  • Have you ever been forced to do something against your will? This may be sexual acts or illegal acts.

It may be one, some or all of these things and may escalate over a period of time - domestic abuse is rarely a one-off incident. 

I’ve answered yes to a lot of those questions – who can help me? 

First of all remember, in an emergency always dial 999.

If you want help and advice then you can call any of the following helplines (not all of them are available 24/7). 

  • North Lincolnshire Women's Refuge - 01724 289299
  • Housing Advice Team - 01724 297777
  • Humberside Police Non Emergency - 101
  • Humberside Police Domestic Violence Unit – 01724 240314
  • Victim Support - 0300 303 1971
  • Samaritans - 01724 860000 - 24 hour help line
  • Childline - 0800 1111 - 24 hour help line
  • National Domestic Violence Helpline - 0808 2000247 - 24 hour help line
  • North Lincolnshire Domestic Abuse Support Line (not 24hr) 0300 33 00 717
  • The Blue Door Scunthorpe & North Lincs - Domestic & Sexual Abuse Support - 0800 197 47 87
  • Men's Advice Line - 0808 801 0327 

Remember that a telephone call can be traced - you may want to use a phone box or a trusted friend's telephone. 

Options 

Remember that you are not alone and you are not to blame for the abuse committed against you. You have options and only you can decide which you want to follow. The options open to you include: 

  • Choose to leave temporarily or permanently
  • Choose to stay, hoping your partner will change
  • Choose to stay, accepting your partner will not change
  • Choose to take legal action against your partner i.e. an injunction
  • Choose to talk to someone, whether it is a family member, friend, colleague or an agency such as the ones listed above. 

Local support 

Christmas and New Year Openings

 

Service

Opening times

Telephone number

Childline

 

 

 

Private and   confidential service for children and young people

24/7

0800 11 11

National   Domestic Abuse Helpline 24 hour

 

Domestic   Abuse Helpline

24 hour 7   days a week

0808 2000   247

The Blue   Door, Scunthorpe and North Lincolnshire

Domestic   and Sexual Abuse support

The Blue   Door, Laneham Street, Scunthorpe

9 – 5 apart   from Bank Holidays and weekends

NOT OPEN ON 26TH& 27TH   DEC AND 2ND JAN 2017

0800 197   4787

 

Women’s   Refuge

North Lincs   Refuge

9 – 5 apart   from Bank Holidays and weekends

01724   289299

Children   and Young People Service

 

9am to 5pm   Monday to Thursday, 9am to 4.30pm Friday)   Answerphone - out of office hours and at weekends

 

01724   296500

 

 

 

01724   296555

 

Freedom Programme

 

All held at The Blue Door, Laneham Street,   Scunthorpe from 10am until 11.30am

 

Every Tuesday at 10am

Not running on 27th December   2016 – commences again on 10th January 2017

 

Drop Ins

 

WEEKLY DROP IN SESSIONS

 

EVERY MONDAY

1 - 3PM – not 26th Dec or 2nd Jan 17

Pepperells   Solicitors

40 DONCASTER ROAD

SCUNTHORPE

NORTH LINCOLNSHIRE

DN15 7RQ

EVERY TUESDAY MORNING  

10:00 – 11:30       not 27th   Dec

                  

EVERY OTHER THURSDAY MORNING  

10:00- 11:30 (Please ring 0800 197   4787 to confirm) not 29th Dec

The Blue Door

Laneham Street, Scunthorpe

 

 

The Freedom Programme is FREE and open to any women who wish to know more about domestic abuse. It is a 12 week support group for two hours a week and you can join at any time.   It is currently running on

Tuesday mornings from 10am until 11.30am at The Blue Door, Laneham Street, Scunthorpe.

Please click here to see the flyer for details of Freedom and how to access the creche for the Tuesday mornings.

Wednesday mornings from 9.30am until 11am at Wellbeing Hub, Tofts Road, Barton Upon Humber. 

The aim is to help women to understand the beliefs held by abusive men and the effects upon children, whilst helping them gain the confidence to improve the quality of their lives and identify the local resources that can help. It is not about telling women what to do but about empowering them to make their own choices. Those who have experienced abuse often have little of no understanding of what has happened to them and it feels like a painful and confusing mess for which they are largely to blame. The Freedom Programme aims to start turning this around at the women’s own pace.

Checkout the Freedom Programme website  

Drop Ins 

These are held at the following places and are available for you to call in and discuss your concerns with a support worker.

  • Pepperells Solicitors, Doncaster Road, Scunthorpe - drop in held every Monday from 1-3pm  
  • The Blue Door, Laneham Street, Scunthorpe - drop in every Tuesday from 10-11.30am and every other Thursday from 10-11.30am (ring 0800 197 4787 to confirm)

There is a leaflet detailing all these support groups and contact numbers here

Protecting yourself in an emergency 

When being attacked or threatened at home, try to:

  • Stay away from the kitchen (the abuser can find knives and weapons there)
  • Stay away from bathrooms, cupboards, wardrobes or small spaces where the abuser can trap you
  • Get to a room with a door or window to escape
  • Get to a room with a phone
  • Call 999 immediately for help
  • Go to a neighbour or friend for help
  • Call for help, scream loudly and continuously - you have nothing to be ashamed of